Ken, you nailed the conclusion—the physical correction is just the entry point; the neurological upgrade is the actual prize. Most people read "colder" and get defensive, but what you’re describing is pure emotional sovereignty. You completely stopped inhabiting the story of the "appeaser."
That’s not coldness; that’s true freedom—having the choice and the options to respond on your own terms, instead of just reacting emotionally.
We touched on this on our call, and this article perfectly captures why I believe our two models are the ultimate compliment to each other.
You built the ultimate Hardware intervention with Reviv. But as you experienced firsthand, when you upgrade the physical hardware, the old 'appeaser' programming (Software) fights back. That friction between new hardware and old software is exactly what causes that grueling, multi-year roller coaster you ground through. You won because you had the sheer grit to just outlast it.
This is exactly where the Software side—what I do with instant story dissolution—plugs in. If a user uses the energetic map to locate and dissolve that old "appeaser" pain story first, the nervous system stops resisting. The software update clears the way so your Reviv hardware can integrate smoothly, without the body fighting it for years.
Hardware (Reviv) + Software (Story Dissolution) is the complete stack. Love seeing you articulate the neurological side of this, because as you said, that’s the real secret weapon. Respect.
This article is so relatable. I feel like I've been on a slow, years-long journey to become less soft, and it's something I work on and think about every day. I hope wearing reviv will have the same effect on me. Thank you, Ken, for writing more personal, perhaps controversial, articles like this
I was watching one man, Dr. Russell, who didn’t go into much detail, talk about the idea of developing emotional sovereignty. I like this idea and I think this may be similar. Become physically in shape and developing emotional sovereignty is my goal.
i think this is what i call 'existential certainty' (im more than halfway to finishing my blogpost on this lol). you feel like your existence is certain, assured, significant.
its not that youre cold or unemotional...its that you're no longer fearful or insecure. people can say whatever they want...and you don't really care. if the situation calls for it, you respond appropriately. if not, you don't even register what they say.
for men, people who are status-conscious will sometimes feel intimidated or threatened unless they see you as their superior. because with exis-certainty, you no longer display micro-appeasement or social-regulation signals. to status-conscious peers, the lack of mutual appeasement reads as you 'challenging them'. to those who regard themselves as superior, they get very disturbed by the lack of appeasement behaviors.
but men who are non-status conscious and engage as peers will feel more comfortable, at ease, even slightly deferential.
but women ime universally respond positively because women see men as partners/ collaborators rather than competition. non-appeasement/ existential certainty reads as high status, which they respond positively to.
Today I received a flat surface splint from the doctor that fits over the lower teeth. The best part is that I can eat with it and keep it in my mouth almost all day. Do you think the thickness or thinness of the splint is important because it seems a bit thin to me?
Hello again, there is a doctor in the city I live in. He gives seminars on the holistic effects of tooth closure and the chewing system. I visited your clinic yesterday and got information about the treatment process. He uses a flat-surface splint and adjusts the splint at regular intervals until the jaw joint becomes stable. Do you think this attunement process is unnecessary? So is it a tactic they use to make the job not seem too simple? :))
In an article I read recently, the importance of using pacifiers in preventing sudden baby deaths was mentioned. Isn't a pacifier actually a biomechanical tool?
Ken, My reaction to your comments was to feel very sad for you. If you've squashed your emotions and refuse to allow yourself to feel - having to "act it out"; you've made yourself a lesser person, not a better one. I think you need to step back and have a hard look at if this is the persopn you, and those you love, really need. Simon
I honestly dont think i try to 'squash' any emotions. Everything i do these days feels very natural.
And i still feel emotions... i'm just not driven by them the way i was earlier. I keep a pretty cool head in most situations and i feel like it allows me to respond to things more logically.
I think that you need to do this process for at least a year or two to understand what im saying actually feels like... because you feel more free. I'm not 'trying' to do anything. I act the way feels 'normal' for me... and in general most relationships in my life are all improving.
But i'm also re-establishing the rules to certain relationships that were a bit skewed in the other person's favor.
I totally get your point in this post. Proper emotional regulation becomes automatic when your physiology is at a certain level of improvement. As somebody with severe mood issues (in the past), I can certainly relate to feeling far more stoic & sound of mind. Without the constant burden of trying to be someone that goes against my own inner temperament.
I guess Ken can speak for himself, Simon, but I have experience of my own that mirrors his. For most of my life, I considered myself to be very empathetic, and would avoid doing or saying things that would cause another person to feel discomfort. Who knows if Reviv has anything to do with the changes I feel within me (I am 55, and am now post-menopausal, which was an experience in itself!), but my feelings simply don't have the hold over me that they formerly did...and it's a wonderful feeling! I no longer tiptoe around issues. I speak my mind firmly, and, I believe, fairly. I'm not emotionally cold, but I'm also not so emotionally open that other people's reactions wreck or manipulate me! I no longer feel the NEED to make everyone around me comfortable. In case it is the Reviv, I'm never going to be without it as long as I live!
Ken, you nailed the conclusion—the physical correction is just the entry point; the neurological upgrade is the actual prize. Most people read "colder" and get defensive, but what you’re describing is pure emotional sovereignty. You completely stopped inhabiting the story of the "appeaser."
That’s not coldness; that’s true freedom—having the choice and the options to respond on your own terms, instead of just reacting emotionally.
We touched on this on our call, and this article perfectly captures why I believe our two models are the ultimate compliment to each other.
You built the ultimate Hardware intervention with Reviv. But as you experienced firsthand, when you upgrade the physical hardware, the old 'appeaser' programming (Software) fights back. That friction between new hardware and old software is exactly what causes that grueling, multi-year roller coaster you ground through. You won because you had the sheer grit to just outlast it.
This is exactly where the Software side—what I do with instant story dissolution—plugs in. If a user uses the energetic map to locate and dissolve that old "appeaser" pain story first, the nervous system stops resisting. The software update clears the way so your Reviv hardware can integrate smoothly, without the body fighting it for years.
Hardware (Reviv) + Software (Story Dissolution) is the complete stack. Love seeing you articulate the neurological side of this, because as you said, that’s the real secret weapon. Respect.
well put! Thank you!
This article is so relatable. I feel like I've been on a slow, years-long journey to become less soft, and it's something I work on and think about every day. I hope wearing reviv will have the same effect on me. Thank you, Ken, for writing more personal, perhaps controversial, articles like this
I was watching one man, Dr. Russell, who didn’t go into much detail, talk about the idea of developing emotional sovereignty. I like this idea and I think this may be similar. Become physically in shape and developing emotional sovereignty is my goal.
i think this is what i call 'existential certainty' (im more than halfway to finishing my blogpost on this lol). you feel like your existence is certain, assured, significant.
its not that youre cold or unemotional...its that you're no longer fearful or insecure. people can say whatever they want...and you don't really care. if the situation calls for it, you respond appropriately. if not, you don't even register what they say.
for men, people who are status-conscious will sometimes feel intimidated or threatened unless they see you as their superior. because with exis-certainty, you no longer display micro-appeasement or social-regulation signals. to status-conscious peers, the lack of mutual appeasement reads as you 'challenging them'. to those who regard themselves as superior, they get very disturbed by the lack of appeasement behaviors.
but men who are non-status conscious and engage as peers will feel more comfortable, at ease, even slightly deferential.
but women ime universally respond positively because women see men as partners/ collaborators rather than competition. non-appeasement/ existential certainty reads as high status, which they respond positively to.
interesting analysis... definitely hadnt thought of it that way but can see truth in what youre saying
Hi, how are you?
Nice comics for growth. Great to see it along the life journey.
Today I received a flat surface splint from the doctor that fits over the lower teeth. The best part is that I can eat with it and keep it in my mouth almost all day. Do you think the thickness or thinness of the splint is important because it seems a bit thin to me?
thicker will be a bit more stretch but other than that its fine
remember that you should change your splint periodically to allow the lower teeth to move too
This bothered me :) Is once every 3 months enough?
ideally once a month or two... otherwise i think you're slowing down your progress. But depends how much the teeth are moving
Hello again, there is a doctor in the city I live in. He gives seminars on the holistic effects of tooth closure and the chewing system. I visited your clinic yesterday and got information about the treatment process. He uses a flat-surface splint and adjusts the splint at regular intervals until the jaw joint becomes stable. Do you think this attunement process is unnecessary? So is it a tactic they use to make the job not seem too simple? :))
i did the same thing on and off for a few years from about 2016 - 2018
And realized that these 'adjustments' are absolutely useless.
Put the bite on a single flat contact and will change exactlly the same.. prob even faster.
These dentists have zero logic... they just blindly do the shit that they were taught.
I adjusted the dental contacts daily with a tracking splint to see what was happening. Then i tested hypotheses.
What if i have all 4 back teeth on each side making contact?
What if i only have 1?
The curve of spee improved in both cases. But it improved faster when i had 1.
In an article I read recently, the importance of using pacifiers in preventing sudden baby deaths was mentioned. Isn't a pacifier actually a biomechanical tool?
in my view yes
I wrote this https://reviv.substack.com/p/i-think-dentists-are-wrong-and-pacifiers
Have you observed biomechanical users getting rid of constipation problems?
nobody to memory has specifically mentioned that
Ken, My reaction to your comments was to feel very sad for you. If you've squashed your emotions and refuse to allow yourself to feel - having to "act it out"; you've made yourself a lesser person, not a better one. I think you need to step back and have a hard look at if this is the persopn you, and those you love, really need. Simon
I honestly dont think i try to 'squash' any emotions. Everything i do these days feels very natural.
And i still feel emotions... i'm just not driven by them the way i was earlier. I keep a pretty cool head in most situations and i feel like it allows me to respond to things more logically.
I think that you need to do this process for at least a year or two to understand what im saying actually feels like... because you feel more free. I'm not 'trying' to do anything. I act the way feels 'normal' for me... and in general most relationships in my life are all improving.
But i'm also re-establishing the rules to certain relationships that were a bit skewed in the other person's favor.
I totally get your point in this post. Proper emotional regulation becomes automatic when your physiology is at a certain level of improvement. As somebody with severe mood issues (in the past), I can certainly relate to feeling far more stoic & sound of mind. Without the constant burden of trying to be someone that goes against my own inner temperament.
I guess Ken can speak for himself, Simon, but I have experience of my own that mirrors his. For most of my life, I considered myself to be very empathetic, and would avoid doing or saying things that would cause another person to feel discomfort. Who knows if Reviv has anything to do with the changes I feel within me (I am 55, and am now post-menopausal, which was an experience in itself!), but my feelings simply don't have the hold over me that they formerly did...and it's a wonderful feeling! I no longer tiptoe around issues. I speak my mind firmly, and, I believe, fairly. I'm not emotionally cold, but I'm also not so emotionally open that other people's reactions wreck or manipulate me! I no longer feel the NEED to make everyone around me comfortable. In case it is the Reviv, I'm never going to be without it as long as I live!
That's amazing!!! Do you wear it during the day? I am happy for your progress! Yay!