I think when anyone is suffering an illness, injury, recent disability or biomechanical collapse, all but their closest friends keep their distance. And sometimes their closest friends will disappear. Sick/disabled people can be depressed, needy and self-absorbed: not much fun to be with. I’ve known so many like this, and have been in that category myself for long periods of time. At the time you need kindness the most, you find yourself alone.
You have to work hard to hide or ignore the illness/disability as much as you can, and show an interest in the other person, and don’t expect it to be reciprocated. And you can become a better person by being a kind and loving friend to those who are suffering.
I definitely think the more "healthy" you look/act the more respect you are given simply down to the fact you look and act like you respect yourself firstly.
One other important aspect is that your emotional resilience absolutely crumbles with your health collapse. Like what you've made reference to in the past by stating that 90% of happiness is a physical phenomenon. As soon as you perceive that someone has been discriminatory towards you—you'll probably be inclined to care about their poor opinion/attitude 10x more than if you were feeling healthy & confident. A healthy person is far more likely to be able to shake things off (e.g. not replay negative conversations in their mind like a broken record).
This is seriously so calming….. I thought I was crazy man I knew something was wrong. What you just shared, is damn near EXACTLYYY what I went through and still am!! That is so insane man, but comforting knowing you healed yourself man. I need this healing man. I never would have thought it would be from this, but it seems very apparent it is
I think when anyone is suffering an illness, injury, recent disability or biomechanical collapse, all but their closest friends keep their distance. And sometimes their closest friends will disappear. Sick/disabled people can be depressed, needy and self-absorbed: not much fun to be with. I’ve known so many like this, and have been in that category myself for long periods of time. At the time you need kindness the most, you find yourself alone.
You have to work hard to hide or ignore the illness/disability as much as you can, and show an interest in the other person, and don’t expect it to be reciprocated. And you can become a better person by being a kind and loving friend to those who are suffering.
I definitely think the more "healthy" you look/act the more respect you are given simply down to the fact you look and act like you respect yourself firstly.
One other important aspect is that your emotional resilience absolutely crumbles with your health collapse. Like what you've made reference to in the past by stating that 90% of happiness is a physical phenomenon. As soon as you perceive that someone has been discriminatory towards you—you'll probably be inclined to care about their poor opinion/attitude 10x more than if you were feeling healthy & confident. A healthy person is far more likely to be able to shake things off (e.g. not replay negative conversations in their mind like a broken record).
This is seriously so calming….. I thought I was crazy man I knew something was wrong. What you just shared, is damn near EXACTLYYY what I went through and still am!! That is so insane man, but comforting knowing you healed yourself man. I need this healing man. I never would have thought it would be from this, but it seems very apparent it is
thanks for sharing that... and yes i think this stuff is at the root cause of tons of shit out there.