How to handle family as you beat this thing

Should you try to explain and convince your family of how this stuff works? In a word... No.

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So i’m probably not the best person to talk about family as i’m extremely independent by nature…. but what the hell!

I’m gonna have a stab at it anyway!

In part because I think a lot of what I say will resonate with some of you folks.

To this day my family doesn’t really get this stuff

My mother and father are quite traditional in terms of their understanding of health.

They believe in exercise, a good diet, not overworking, etc. Like the vast majority of folks out there.

And so my biomechanical interpretation is not really in their vocabulary. And they find it a tough pill to swallow.

As a result.. some years back i went from the ‘smart’ one in the family to the ‘crazy’ one. And i love the new positioning baby! lol

First, let’s talk about my mother

My mother, for example, thinks that health and exercise is the fix for everything. And lives by these rules her entire life.

In fact she preaches them to anyone that will listen. I had listened to that bs for years.

Now if she starts talking about how she exercises everyday it sounds like elevator music. Like the nonsense that they put on when you’re in the lift and there is some noise playing.

Yes…. she never really ‘got’ this biomechanical stuff. Despite my numerous attempts over the years to try and explain it as simple as possible.

It is as if she also considered what I was saying to be elevator music nonsense.. Hahahaa

But only one of us will be right.

And unfortunately.. it ain’t gonna be her.

My dad takes the ‘yeah whatever’ stance

So my dad is quite different from my mother and they are divorced since i was a young teen. He doesn’t really exercise much and is much more relaxed about what kind of food he eats.

So he still enjoys his bacon and fatty foods.

And so we already align better in our way of thinking. Because I also don’t exercise and I also eat whatever I want.

But he also only half-heartedly believes in this dental/biomechanical stuff. He kind of takes the position of “yeah whatever… my son is a bit nuts but i will humor him a bit” LOL.

And I fully appreciate this philosophy so we have a much better relationship at this point than i do with my mother.

Also, he was having lots of health issues a couple years back. A heart attack, etc.

And he seemed to be spiraling downwards. So a little over a year back I asked him to wear a flat plane splint.

And I told him something like.. “Dad.. I know you don’t really believe in my stuff… but as your son I ask you to humor me and take this simple step of wearing this thing to sleep. If i’m right, you will benefit massively. If i’m wrong, you have lost nothing.”

And so he did.

His health has improved a lot since that time and he’s had no major issues.

In fact just recently, he wanted to get back to work after over a decade of not wanting to. Plus he was dating a girl in her 30’s for a couple months.

Not bad for a 78-year old guy that never believed in exercise or diet!

Note that this is not my family

This past Christmas was a good example of how this shit works

So this past Christmas I took my wife & son from where we live in Bankok to New York to visit my parents. And i hadn’t been back in a few years because of COVID, visa issues, etc.

When I got back and saw my parents for the first time in four years I was surprised at a few things.

First, my mother looked like she had aged quite a bit. Not only looked but also moved as though she’d aged a lot since I last saw her.

My father, who is a couple years older, looked pretty much the same as I remember him. He seemed to look and function better than my mom from a neurological and cognitive standpoint.

And remember that my father does negligible amounts of exercise and eats whatever he wants. Whereas my mother does 1-2 hours of exercise everyday and is crazy about eating healthy.

But.. my father had been wearing his flat plane splint appliance for 8-9 months already.

Did it make a difference?

Well, they definitely wouldn’t admit this. But for me it was beyond a doubt.

Closing thoughts on dealing with your parents

Don’t expect to convince your parents and other family members of the validity of this dental stuff till you’re done. It’s not worth the time nor the frustration.

That is what I learned in the end.

Rather the key is to win ‘beyond a doubt’.

Because then regardless of whether they want to believe you, they have to accept that you look and function amazing. And that is the only ‘real’ way to ever get them to try and understand this stuff.

By proving that it works. You know the ‘in your face.. screw you for not believing me, I won bitch!’ variety of proof. lol.

So that is the variety i plan to end with.

It’s just a fact of this stuff due to its unbelievable nature that the only way you truly convince most folks is through victory.

It’s like if you were England during Hitler’s World War II advance. Negotiating would have gotten you nowhere.

You need to win beyond all doubt. And then dictate the terms of your victory.

So yeah… i’m not gonna win any ‘family therapist of the year’ awards.. hahaha

But i’m not looking to. I’m looking to win and then accept others’ terms of surrender.

I want to hear the “Sorry son for doubting you. That will never happen again.”

And while i love them… that IS how this shit is gonna end.

With victory.